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What to do if you should encounter a Neurotypical in the Wild: A Field Guide

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1. Speak softly and slowly. Make no loud noises. Neurotypicals startle easily. 2. Avoid direct discussion of special interests. Neurotypicals may become confused if conversation has depth, continuity, or visible enthusiasm. 3..Offer small talk as enrichment. Weather, errands, and “busy lately?” can soothe them in unfamiliar environments. 4. Do not make prolonged eye contact. They may interpret this as either aggression or networking. or worse …. 5. Use vague emotional […]

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In Which I Get Knocked on my Ass

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I’m on record as saying that 2025 was, for me personally, a really great year. I released four books and started finally finding my audience. I wrote two complete books. I started working professionally in editing and graphic design, including making all my own book covers, making new covers for many of my older books in the process, as well as covers for friends. I created an author career plan

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Chaos, Order, and Creativity

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I’ve recently stumbled upon a concept that directly relates to which creative processes work for which people. This certainly applies to me, and maybe other people will find it helpful. Here goes … I think we all can agree that everyone’s brain is on a spectrum between order and chaos. WE call this the left brain/right brain thing, but the left/right construct is a fallacy that is not actually how

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Do It Until It Doesn’t Suck!

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Late last year, after the worst year of my life, I decided to throw another project on the pile (and on top of the wreckage): getting into shape. I had just been dumped. I was finishing up my graphic design degree. I’d been living with my parents for several months. Everything had fallen apart, but I thought, this is something I need to do to feel better about myself. So,

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The Unbearable Beauty of Circular Progress

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It would be nice sometimes if life worked according to video game rules. You could overcome the challenge, level up, and be able to use that new skill in subsequent levels. And to a certain extent, it kind of does work like that. You usually only have to learn how to ride a bike once, for example (as long as it takes you). Driving also tends to get better as

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Lessons from 2024

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I’m on record talking about what a shit year this was for me. Not going to review that here. But it was also a year of incredible growth and learning, so as the year ends, I want to review the important things that I learned.             I learned that I could survive and accomplish things when everything is falling apart, but only up to a certain point. Yes, I can

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Things it took me way too long to learn

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Life lessons. We’ve all experienced them. It takes some of us a little longer than others to learn certain things, and I am no exception. So here are some lessons I didn’t learn until I’d been beaten over the head with them a couple of times. 1.  If I’m going to remember something, I’m going to have to write it down. I don’t know how many times I had to

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